Wednesday, May 15, 2019

The First Mother's Day Without My Mom



"Mothers are primarily responsible 

for the nurture of their children".

(The Family: A Proclamation to the World,pp 7)


 Almost 50 years ago, my mom found out that she was going to be a mom to a daughter. Finally!! After having 2 boys, she was so excited to have a daughter.  During our lives together, we did all kinds of fun things. We loved to watch movie musicals. We had special Mom and Daughter lunches while I was in high school/college. My favorite thing to do with my mom was bake.  She baked everything from scratch and I wanted all of her recipes!  When I would come home from a date, no matter how late it was, she would let me sit on the end of the bed and talk; telling her about every last detail.  When I grew up and left home for college, those talks changed from the foot of her bed to a telephone. I am so glad we had the relationship we did.

As I've been studying these past few weeks about the family and the important role mothers have on society, it's got me thinking about the things my mom taught me by sharing her knowledge and by her example.
In the book "Successful Marriages and Families"  it states "The calling of motherhood has been identified as the most ennobling endowment that God could give to His daughters"(Hawkins,p130)

Many times she shared the joy from motherhood. She loved being stay at home mom. Someone who would  teach me how to love and care for the family and realize my role as a daughter of God.

Two and a half years ago, my mother was diagnosed with dementia/Alzheimer's disease.  As best I could from so far away, I put everything she taught me into practice to help love and care for her and remind her that she was a daughter of God.  I had the chance to visit and have talks with her, rub lotion on her hands and feet, and sing her songs.  I could tell by her expressions that she was pleased.

Three weeks ago, on April 23, my sweet mom left this earth and is now on the other side of the veil with her mom and family.  I stayed stoic, I guess. I had many times where I had grieved for my mom during this journey already. Then came Mother's Day.  I knew it might be hard, but during a talk about being a mom, the speaker shared the words to a song that we used to sing at Girls camp. A flood of memories came to my mind.  All the times my mom and I spent at girls camp together.  My heart was overflowing with gratitude for a mother who loved begin my mother.

In honor of her, I decided to write this blog for my Family Proclamation Project.  Each blog will discuss what she deemed the most important thing in her life: Her family.

Debbie Craner


References:

Hawkins, A., Dollahite, D., & Draper, T. (2016), Successful Marriages and Families Proclamation Principles and Research Perspectives, Provo,Utah, BYU Studies

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